Saturday, February 06, 2010

Question


If you suddenly realize that your friend is very adept at making others think that she is their friend and "on their side" and that she really cares when she really doesn't.......does that mean she doing that to you, too?


I wonder.....


J.

10 comments:

Cher said...

My answer would probably be "yes".

Hoosier Girl said...

That's what I'm afraid of. (sigh)

J.

Brother Dave said...

There are disingenuous people in the world.

Someone who talks to you saying bad things about people behind their backs; yet, smiling and being friendly to their faces are such individuals.

You can bet that you are being talked about behind your back.

And if this is what you are referring to regarding your "friend" then she is a friend to no one.

Sayre said...

I've had that happen at work. She's just as smiley and friendly as can be to my face, but isn't like that when my back is turned. I continue to be pleasant and helpful to her, but I know for a fact that she is not my friend.

It's not just me - she does it to everyone.

karisma said...

YES!

I have posted an echidna for you over at my place.

hugs and smoochies xoxox

Anonymous said...

I think you answered your own question!

People who talk about others don't understand the meaning of friendship, they just know how to gossip; and if the gossip is good
everyone is fair game.

Funny thing is; is when this happens to them, they are horrified at the transgression they perceive being done to them.

Hale McKay said...

I'd have to say unequivocally - - yes!

Faye said...

Probably. In my circle of friends we have this warning: whoever is not present is going to get discussed. What's said is probably not that bad, but you'd like to think your friends accept you no matter what.

If you're driving tomorrow, take care. the snow is really coming down.

Just Dave said...

I agree with the majority. She is probably dissing you, too. Sad but true. Sneak in the mens room and write her number on the wall.

Hoosier Girl said...

Thanks everybody. I actually work with this person, and Steven knows I've struggled all year with the question of whether she's really a friend or just nice to me at work because it's her job. But it was seeing her with a co-worker that made me realize she's just that nice to everyone...and it's her job to be as nice to me as she can to get me to do the work she needs done.

I'm a little sad, but it makes sense.

J.