Wednesday, March 25, 2009

Question.

What do you do when you're feeling down? How do you make yourself feel better when something is bothering you or on your mind? I really want to know.

I have something on my mind. I'm feeling down. I need some suggestions.

J.

20 comments:

metalmom said...

I bake.

Tonight I made chocolate chocolate chip cookies. I think I will make scones tomorrow.

Superwoman said...

I try to think of a solution, then I pray about it. Really. That's what I do. All I can then I turn it over to the Lord. He can fix anything. But, there's usually chocolate along the way and fretting as well. But, it always turns out as it should, even if I don't realize it at the time.

Superwoman said...

Sorry you're down. I'll send good thoughts your way.

Sayre said...

I clean. My hands are busy and I feel like I'm accomplishing something, but at the same time, it leaves my mind free to work things out.

I hope you feel better soon.

Finn said...

I make time for a good pout. I listen to sad songs on my iPod, I cry if necessary, I wallow in it for about 24 hours or so. That's usually about all I can take.

Just let it wash over you; it should pass. It's OK to feel bad once in a while. If you fight it, it will just last longer.

Brother Dave said...

Talking it over with someone who is a good listener can help with your perspective on the situation. The other person would be your sounding-board, not a person with a ready solution.

There are other good suggestions here as well. It's all about whatever works.

AmyD said...

I try to give my brain a vacation by watching something on television that will totally distract me, I garden, I eat, or I drink.

If none of that works... I write it all down furiously and go take a long, hot shower and cry.

Wow, I am really dysfunctional.

From all the articles I've read I think the correct answer is, "Exercise and try to eat better."
Yeah, like THAT works.

giftsofthejourney said...

I make a list of whatever is bothering me on toilet paper sometimes it's really a long piece...depending.

I write it all down without trying to figure out solutions as the concerns come out.

After I've purged them all out onto paper, I take a good look at each one noting off to the side if there's anything I can do to change whatever is bothering me. If so, I write down the solution next to it.

Usually what happens is I have a long list of concerns which are not even things I have the power to change and writing it down helps me see that so I can let it go.

As for the tissue, well...there's something really satisfying in recycling it in the way toilet paper is intended to be used. It's sort of like thumbing your nose at all the crap you tend to hang onto, but can't do anything about.

Afterward is the best part as you drop that paper into the bowl and press the flush and watch as the things you obsess about float right out of your life. It can be very cleansing on multiple levels.

Seriously...I hope you're having a better day soon.

giftsofthejourney said...

I make a list of whatever is bothering me on toilet paper sometimes it's really a long piece...depending.

I write it all down without trying to figure out solutions as the concerns come out.

After I've purged them all out onto paper, I take a good look at each one noting off to the side if there's anything I can do to change whatever is bothering me. If so, I write down the solution next to it.

Usually what happens is I have a long list of concerns which are not even things I have the power to change and writing it down helps me see that so I can let it go.

As for the tissue, well...there's something really satisfying in recycling it in the way toilet paper is intended to be used. It's sort of like thumbing your nose at all the crap you tend to hang onto, but can't do anything about.

Afterward is the best part as you drop that paper into the bowl and press the flush and watch as the things you obsess about float right out of your life. It can be very cleansing on multiple levels.

Seriously...I hope you're having a better day soon.

Sushiboy said...

I do homework, but that is all I ever do. Hope your get feeling better. Maybe you could think of all the people who think you are great. Steven and your blogging pals and all that.

Hoosier Girl said...

Metalmom - Great idea. Aaron loves to bake cookies. I think we will tackle some later tonight.

Superwoman - It's crazy. I believe in the power of prayer, I go to church every Sunday, and I didn't even think of praying! Sometimes a problem can seem so big that you can't see the obvious. Thanks for the reminder. And thanks for the good thoughts. I'm not sure yet, but I think the good thoughts might be helping.

Sayre - I should have known you clean. I have been cleaning, too.

Finn - You process it like I do. I went to bed, had a good cry, and listened to "You Had a Bad Day" by Daniel Powter, among other songs. And I slept a lot. Things are better today. Not settled, but better.

Brother Dave - Unfortunately, this is something I can't really talk to anyone about. But I'm hoping it will resolve itself soon.

GiftsoftheJourney - I like that idea! I did make a list of things I need to do, so I could get all that off my mind. Today is better.

Sushi - Someday you won't have to do homework anymore! I'm glad there are some people think I'm great, but it sure didn't feel like it last night.

J.

Hoosier Girl said...

I forgot to say, thanks everyone for your great suggestions. I'm sorry, but I can't really explain but I DO feel a little better today. Hopefully I will feel a LOT better soon.

J.

Sayre said...

You don't have to explain, J! Just know that whatever it is, we all hope it gets better. You're our HoosierGirl and we care when you're feeling great and when you're feeling blue.

Hoosier Girl said...

Sayre - That is so sweet. I hope it gets better, too.

J.

Poppy said...

I think you know my new strategy: Say what's on your mind.

captain corky said...

Sometimes I sit on it for a while and it drives me crazy and then I start filtering it to one or two of my close friends and my wife. That usually helps out a lot. Writing about it on the blog helps out too when it's something I want to share.

Tookie Tail said...

I read! I absorb myself in another storyline other than my own. It helps occupy my mind for awhile anyway.
I hope you are feeling better now. Sorry I'm late with this. We've had lots of storms down here.

Hoosier Girl said...

Poppy - Unfortunately, I DID say what was on my mind. I just didn't get the answers I wanted.

Corky - I have been talking it through with Steven. I'm just not sure where all our talks will go.

Tookie - I have been reading, too. It helps. I DO feel a little better. It just takes time.

J.

Just Dave said...

Sorry I'm late. I just try to think around all angles of the situation and find the solution that seems best. It often takes some time, a week maybe but I almost always find a viable solution that eases the stress. Getting drunk and mooning policemen doesn't count.

Fleur de Lisa said...

I work out. A good hard workout clears the mind, gives me time to think and is good for you too.