Monday, July 17, 2006

He blew the damn thing up!

Wire dispatch from this morning's Courier Journal:
New York -
Doctor in house blast dies: The doctor suspected of blowing up his town house rather than allowing his ex-wife to benefit from its sale has died, nearly a week after suffering critical injuries in the blast, a hospital spokewoman said yesterday. Dr. Nicholas Bartha, 66, died late Saturday. Police had been unable to speak to Bartha about the July 10 explosion because he was in a medically induced coma. Authorities have said they were investigating whether he might have caused it rather than sell the town house as part of a divorce judgment favoring his ex-wife.

Wow. And I thought relations between me and my ex were strained. (laugh) Actually, there is good news on that front. He and I exchanged kids amicably this weekend, he made a positive (insert collective gasp of surprise here) comment about my new t-shirt (I'll be posting a pic of that in a later relates to my coffee addiction), AND we were able to work out next week's week-long kid visit, with modifications being made to the original plan without the use of a mediator (har, har). In addition, he actually paid me for half of the tickets I bought for him and Rachael to go "Warped Tour" in Indianapolis while she is visiting him. (Hey, I've paid my dues - I've been to TWO Simple Plan concerts, and one of them was outside in the cold. It's his turn) And he has finally agreed to attend family counseling, something my lawyer worked out with his. That should be interesting, especially since our "family" dissolved over 4 years ago. But it's a step.

I've been listening to a teaching tape I got at church on Sunday about anger and forgiveness, and I realized I am not going to get over my anger until I find a way to forgive him for all he did to me and the kids. I used to say it was easier for me to get past what he did to me, but I didn't know if I could ever forgive him for leaving the kids. (He didn't just divorce me....3 months after our divorce, he remarried and moved to California for 3 1/2 years and never saw the kids) But we'll see. Maybe I'm ready to let all that go.

In the mean time, at least we never attempted to blow each other up!

PS. Scroll down to yesterday's post and let me know what you think of the new look.


eatmisery said...

If I had an ex-husband, I'd be crazy enough to blow him up. Heh...

Tuesday Girl said...

Thanks for leaving a comment over at my blog!

I am sure you are thankful you don't have an "explosive" relationship with your ex.

Wow, that was bad.

sunShine said...

Isn't that terrible. He basically destroyed his house and killed himself to be sure that she did not get the house. I wonder if he has changed his beneficiary on his life insurance. What if she still gets all that he had left in the world???

Tricia said...

I give you a ton of credit for dealing with an ex. I can't even fathom the idea.

The key to letting go of the anger is to use a prop when you are angry - or are getting ready to blow. I like to beat the crap out of a pillow and yell aloud that I am getting back at (INSERT NAME HERE) for all the misery he has caused.

I find that all the anger turns to tears and that the anger is really masking pain that you've been feeling for some time.

Finally, pray over it.

FindingHeart said...

Dang! Thought would never occur to me to blow this place up. Then, he's 66 and starting all over. If I could have afforded it, I would have liked the kids to have been able to keep the house.

Yeah, the anger thing just doesn't work for me. I don't think God planned this crap for me, but he did give me the facility to make it through it and make something good come of it. Gonna be tough, but it'd be much tougher if I was angry at the world all the time.

Glad things are looking up. Oh, and nice rack. Heh heh. (Figured the only guy commenting today should say something. :)